I got frustrated last night on our date. Earlier that day, my therapist said that I need to analyze what underlying feelings I have the next time I get frustrated. I thought about what I was feeling and why and I figured out that I felt like “I never get what I want”. I also thought about how that made me feel and it made me sad.

I talked to Sheralyn about it and she helped me realize that I had felt/thought that often enough that I have developed another belief that “what I want is not important or does not matter”. And this also made me sad. We talked about when we thought these beliefs started and we think it was when we got married or when we started having kids. I feel like I resent the kids on a subconscious level because their needs come before mine and that is not fair. My underlying value that is being violated here is fairness.

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